If you think your relationship might be at stake because of his friends then spend time to think of ways to keep the relationship going rather than wasting time thinking about ways to keep his friends happy. Friends are very important in relationships because their opinion matters but they are not what the relationship is about. However, if you are looking for reasons as to why your boyfriend’s friends hate you, some of these might help:
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He spends time with you instead of them
Would you like someone if they took your friend’s time and instead of having fun with you, she wants to hang around with that person all the time? Since he was their friend first, they think of you as a passing phase which will go away with time just as his other girlfriends have and then they can all have fun as a group again. However, they do not hate you. They just don’t find you important enough to be given a lot of attention. It is entirely up to you to carry yourself with sufficient dignity and up to your boyfriend to tell them enough about you so as to make them like you. It’s your relationship and you will have to take charge.
They might consider you to be inferior
If they actually hate you that might be because they consider you to be inferior to them in terms of money. Some guys are very particular about social status and stature and if you don’t fit in, they will not accept you. Your boyfriend might not be like that but his friends might.
They don’t like the change they see in him
You might have changed him for the better but those changes can be a little difficult for his friends to understand. They were perfectly happy with him just the way he was and you brought about some changes which might be different to his perspective, opinion or behavior.
They feel left out
Another reason for them not to like you might be because they feel left out in your company just as much as you do in theirs. They might feel that your boyfriend is giving you all his attention, leaving none for them, and you might feel that he is giving them all the attention rather than you. As a result, they think you are drawing attention away from them instead of being a part of their group because of the special attention you are getting. Try to befriend them by making them feel like a part of the group. When you go out with them, think of yourselves as a group.
They might think of you as nagging
Do you constantly keep calling your boyfriend to check on him or keep nagging him at all times? No one likes to see their friend being treated that way, especially guys, and constant cribbing is just another way of not giving your partner some much required space in the relationship. When he goes out with his friends, avoid calling him and don’t shout at him or fight with him when his friends are around.
They are protective of him
All they want is for their friend to be happy, and even though guys will never accept it, they don’t want their friends to get hurt and since they don’t know you that well, they might consider you to be the kind of girl who likes hurting men. All they want to do is to protect him from any possible pain or hurt.
They might have a soft spot for his ex-girlfriend
Some friends have trouble getting over their friend’s break up even when the couple doesn’t and such people feel more apprehensive in accepting their friend’s current girlfriend. If that is the case, then it’s not your fault because you haven’t done anything to not be likable. It is your boyfriend’s friends who have to get over his ex-girlfriend and try to accept you.
You might not be making them feel comfortable
At times, even when you might not realize, others might feel uncomfortable in your presence. It might be because of the way you behave around them, talk to them or even the way you look at them. You should try to find out what it is about you that annoys his friends and then do something about it.
They might think that he deserves better
Some friends don’t like their friend’s girlfriend because they feel that their friend deserve better. If that’s the reason for them to hate you, they are not even worth trying to win over.
They want you
This is one of the most farfetched reasons but every once in a while, we find some romantic triangles where one friend will like his friend’s girlfriend and pretend to hate her just so that her relationship ends and he can make a move on her. This sounds very cheesy but do make sure that none of his friends have a soft spot for you.