Being in a relationship is not about the roses and the romantic dinners. That of course makes for a great start but a long lasting and successful relationship is more about the element of trust and how much of it is present in your relationship.
Many couples end up splitting for the simple reason that they lack trust. Trusting your partner with regards to everything be it finances, not cheating on you etc is developed over a period of time. Its obviously foolish to trust someone blindly but if you have been in a relationship with someone for more than a year then its about time that you work on your trust factor.
Trust cannot be imbibed. It comes with time and it comes when you demonstrate to your partner how sincere you are in what you say and the way you love them.
Do things that show your partner you are worthy of their trust, prove yourself to them. Here are a few ways to go about things:
Share information about personal finances
Finances and money are always a sensitive topic for a couple. When both are earning members of society, the deeper the relationship, the greater the level of concerns regarding finances and security. If you are in a live-in relationship with someone, then talk about ways to share expenses to live a good life. Be open about how much you earn and how much you target to save every month so that they know you don’t hide anything from them. If you are a married couple, be open about applying for joint security and insurance policies to safeguard your futures and that of your children.
Talk about anything that bothers you
Your partner should feel that they can trust you and the best way to start making them feel so is by confiding in them first. They will more often than not reciprocate that by sharing their own problems with you over a period of time.
Be the first to give out ATM pins and cards for groceries
Sharing an ATM pin and trusting your partner to go out and shop with it or withdraw money without you is the first step to building trust. Your partner will feel like as though they have been given something of great importance and value and will try and live up to the trust you have put in them.
When they are with others of the opposite sex, act natural
Its normal for people to feel jealous when their partner is showing more attention to someone else from the opposite sex. But, in your case, develop the element of trust by acting natural. Tell yourself that the two of them are just talking so it doesn’t matter.
Impress the parents
Impressing each other’s parents is another way of developing trust in a relationship. Build their trust and get them to approve of you so that your partner becomes more open to trusting you in turn.
Don’t shy away from talking about the future
Let your partner feel that you are dead serious about your relationship going someplace. Make plans about the future, where you would like to live, when you would like to get married, etc. This will help your partner get the idea that you want to be with them forever and they will naturally start trusting you more with the thought that you could be their future spouse.
Buy something big together
Invest in a joint plan or buy something big like property, land, a house, a car together. That way, the fact that you guys own something together will help you learn how to trust each other with other things too.
Use the help of childhood friends
Childhood friends who have known you for a long time can help a lot in influencing a partner to trust. Tell your friends to talk about how you have always been helpful and trustworthy and ask them to cite examples. Your partner will then have some proof of your qualities and will start trusting you more.
Never lie to begin with
Build your relationship on a good start. Never lie about anything to start with because once you are caught, its very difficult to build the aspect of trust back into the relationship again. So avoid lying and if you already have, own up to your partner before they found out.