First dates are full of anticipation and expectations. Irrespective of the casual image guys try to portray, they are equally excited for the first date. The success of a first date decides the possibility of a long term relationship so, as much as women try to get the most out of their men on the first date, men aim for something similar. It’s a lot like a mental checklist they create to judge/rate the date. Men are as excited about first dates as women but they prefer to cover the excitement and enthusiasm under a garb of charming indifference. Here is a list of things men want on their first date:
Men just adore women who are on time for a date. Punctuality reflects one’s respect and value for their time as well as the other person’s time. Since the first date is in question here, the level of anticipation and anxiety is very high so it becomes difficult for men to control their excitement. The thought of meeting a woman (probably for the first time), spending time with her and getting to know her is just too much for them.
Before I elaborate on this point, let me make it very clear that the concept of a funny joke or comment is different between men and women. Women thrive in subtle remarks whereas men usually fail to see humor in subtlety. However, the one thing a man appreciates most in his woman is a good sense of humor. The ability to laugh and make others laugh carries a certain charm and a man looks for it whenever he goes on his first date with someone. A good sense of humor is as important to a man as it is to a woman.
The first date in a way defines the way the relationship will progress, if at all. Therefore, men want a certain amount of chemistry on the first date. They don’t look for anything strong or loud but a little chemistry on the first date reflects compatibility. Slight flirtatiousness, hand gestures and body language creates the feeling of happiness. There’s no possibility of a relationship or even a second date unless they share some chemistry and enjoy each others company.
Comfort and ease
When going for their first date, men tend to look for comfort. They don’t expect to feel comfortable in the presence of their date immediately but as time passes by, it is only natural for them to look for ease.
A well dressed date
Who wants to go out with someone who dresses shabbily and looks out of place? Every man wants his date to look very attractive especially when the first date is in question here because the way a woman dresses reflects her excitement for the coming evening and a well dressed woman will make her date feel special.
Appreciation and compliments
Against popular belief, every man wants to be appreciated for his efforts (even though he will never accept it). Men find it difficult to respond to compliments and appreciation because they aren’t really aware of the proper response. Nonetheless, they always want their dates to compliment them for making the effort, for getting them flowers, for acting like gentlemen and for trying to make the evening special for their dates. Men are very secretive by nature so they try to cover up any signs of effort or difficulty in planning the date but they want their dates to read between the lines. Nothing beats appreciation!
Men make a lot of effort to say the right things and to appear courteous so they expect the same to be reciprocated to them. Common courtesy forbids people to misbehave if they don’t enjoy a date. It also includes addressing the other person politely and maintaining a calm composure. The first date has a lot of questions attached to it and there is no compulsion for it to be a success but the courtesy can create fond memories of even the most boring first dates.
Men look for hints and signs everywhere. If they feel that their date has had fun with them, liked the special treatment and enjoyed the attention, they automatically expect a goodnight kiss. After a night of fun, adventure and the possibility of a new romance, their mind automatically starts revolving around a goodnight kiss.