Having the right levels of confidence is crucial to helping you lead a good life, professionally and personally. People with lack of confidence attract a lot many more negative emotions like jealousy, feelings of insecurity, fear etc. Confidence furthermore not only helps you lead a good life, it helps you to be a better grounded person. It’s a known fact that confident people sail through times of adversities quite easily because they learn how to deal with difficult things and have the right levels of confidence and know-how regarding what to do in times of need.
If you ever get the chance to observe a confident person closely, you will notice that there is something admirable about the way the person dresses, walks, talks etc. There is a certain unspoken charm about the way the person carries themselves that attracts the element of respect. People look at confident people as ones who can be reliable too. Or as someone they can look up to.
If you suffer from lack of confidence, or low self esteem, learn to acknowledge it as a problem. Although it may not affect your daily day to day activities and life, it will get in the way at some point of time thus leading to bigger mental strains later on. Accept that you suffer from low confidence levels so that you can find ways to develop your levels of confidence to build a better overall growth for yourself.
Here are a few steps that may help out:
Read books on boosting confidence levels
Try and gather some books from your local library or bookstore or maybe download some from the Internet. There is a varied range of confidence building books available in the written market. Start by collecting some so you can read them in your free time. The analysis and ideas on how to build your confidence that’s written there can be quite helpful.
Go for personality development classes
Personality classes target all points about developing a person’s overall character and personality. And that’s why they usually have sessions dedicate to developing confidence levels in people too. These classes can be very helpful and can be a great place to meet people like you or want to work on several different things about themselves.
Find something you are great at
Many a times, people, especially children in their adolescent years or teenagers suddenly see a growth in their confidence levels because they find something that they genuinely like and something that they are genuinely good at. So, follow the same format. Find something that interests you and develop your skill in that area, let everyone notice your skill thereafter and you will automatically see a rise in your confidence levels. Because sometimes all it takes is some genuine praise from others!
Get a new wardrobe
Although this seems a very silly little thing, a sharp dressing sense can automatically make you feel more confident. Try by wearing casual attire one evening and stepping out and then suddenly dressing into something really suave and elegant. You will automatically experience a drastic change in your attitude and even gait. Smart cuts and well stitched outfits can actually help in making you feel more confident about facing the world.
Listen to motivational speakers
If you aren’t up for joining a motivational class, then speak to or listen to the speeches of motivational speakers. They are meant to help people develop their levels of confidence and listening to some of what they say will rightfully help you in some ways.
Think of why you suffer from low confidence
Was there ever a childhood incident that took away your confidence and affected your pride? Or was there ever something that went dramatically wrong during your growing years? Either way, first think about why you feel you are not a confident person. Because, knowing what causes the problem will help you solve it better. For instance, a high school student who was always terrible at math was constantly put down by his parents because of it. It affected him to such an extent that he became a quiet self brooding young adult. Its only later on in life when he realized that it doesn’t matter how bad he is at math, he can do so many other things that can help him in life that his levels of confidence started rising again.
Learn to believe in yourself
Many people who suffer from low levels of confidence do so because they don’t believe in themselves. Learn to believe in what you do and who you are and the fact that you do things well. This will help you be more confident in life.
Start meeting more confident people
Who you hang out can change you; this is why our parents always made sure we had the “right” friends. The same theory goes for adulthood. When you start hanging out with confident people who belief in themselves, your attitude towards yourself will also start changing thus helping you bring up your confidence levels. Find some people at your workplace itself so it makes things easier.
Learn to give yourself a pat on the back every time you have done something that you feel is good. In today’s world, many times good work does unnoticed. Don’t wait for someone to tell you that you are doing well; you are mature enough to understand it for yourself. Give yourself a pep talk and congratulatory talk every once in way to boost your confidence.
Put up samples of your greatest work
If you an artist or a financial expert, put up samples of your good work around your room at home. It will help you look at it and think of how good you are at what you. This will indirectly help you boost your confidence too. Furthermore, other people will also get an idea of your master works and praise you! And you will enjoy that, for sure.
Keep telling yourself that you are a confident person
Every time you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are smart, confident person. This daily morning ritual will soon help you to believe in it too.