It is absolutely essential for friends to trust each other. In fact, trust is the very base on which a successful friendship is based so whether you are dealing with your old friends or starting a new one, make sure you develop a strong bond of trust. Here are some tips to get your friends to trust you as much as you would want to trust them:
Sound confident and be there for them
When you make a new friend or talk to an old one, ensure you send a positive body language. You know you are a nice person and there are no two ways about it. So, when you talk, sound confident and have faith in your ability to appear genuine and friendly. Until and unless you can trust yourself, nobody else can. When your friend needs you, don’t blow them off because that will make you a flake of a friend. Be there when your friends need you and if required, go out of your way to make them feel important.
Keep your promises
If you say something, stick to it. If you make a promise, don’t go back on your word. That is not always an easy thing to do because priorities keep changing but it is the right thing to do. If you promise something at the spur of the moment and eventually forget about it, your friends can never learn to trust you. If you find it difficult to keep promises, then don’t make a lot of them but try to keep the ones you do make.
Show that you can relate to your friends
You are not supposed to think like your friends at all times but that doesn’t mean you have to argue with them or impose your opinion. Allow the freedom of speech and let them share their point of view. No one is asking you to believe their beliefs but unless you can understand what they feel, they will never be comfortable in talking to you about their feelings.
Don’t lie to them
People tend to lie. It’s a part of being a human being but avoid lying to your friends. Don’t be scared to lose a friend just because telling them the truth might hurt them. A friendship is about trust and honesty. Lying to them about certain things or hiding things from them might make them happy at that point of time but that’s not a permanent solution and it should never be considered as one.
Always be nice and helpful
Help your friends if you want them to help you in your time of need. Being nice to people and helping them makes them feel secure and comfortable around you. You can be trusted only if they know that they can ask for your help and presence whenever they are in doubt.
Show humility and compassion
It is difficult to be humble at all times but that is just something you need to learn in order to encourage everyone to trust you, not just your friends. If you are humble and compassionate, no one will feel apprehensive to approach you. They will know that you will cover their back in any situation and that they can trust you.
Don’t forget your old friends
Your friends need to feel secure in their friendship with you. Unless you can give them that security, your bond will never be strong. The key to this is to keep all your friends, whether new or old with you. Life is a process of constant evolution and people tend to outgrow others when they meet someone new. But, just because you cannot relate to a person doesn’t mean the friendship should end. Even if you cannot relate to your old friends, they will remain your friends and they will be there when you need them. So, be there when they need you. Don’t allow new friends to replace the old ones. This will also help your new friends to trust you better because they will feel more secure knowing that your friendship doesn’t go away with time.
Keep their secrets to yourself
Learn to keep secrets. It is more fun to spread the gossip and make fun of their secrets but if you are looking for trust, you have to give it yourself. Let them feel safe in trusting you with their secrets and if you do that, they will automatically safeguard yours.
Don’t judge your friends
Allow your friends to be who they are in front of you. If you judge them, apprehension can creep into the friendship which can potentially destroy trust. Give them the much needed space and accept them for what they are. If you do that, they will also accept you for everything that you are irrespective of whether that goes with their moral and ethical code or not.
Don’t be afraid to be yourself
If you are friends with someone, why should you be afraid to be yourself and constantly say things to please them? If they really are your friends, allow them to trust you for what you are. It’s not always easy to do that but if you trust them, make them feel comfortable around you and keep their secrets, it’s not that difficult either.