The first date is always the one wherein first impressions make or break the trip. The pressure is on both the people to impress the other with looks, behavior, intellect and in short – everything.
Although one usually decides on whether to continue seeing the person or not after the first date, the main influence of that decision comes from the conversation the first time. People unconsciously review what they spoke about and whether it was interesting enough to meet another time.
One has to be sure to avoid getting too personal and deep during first date conversations. First dates are always a crucial point. It can be the basis of something great or something irrelevant. Either way with a little bit of confidence and a lot of spirit, one can sail through the first date conversation with a little help from the tips below:
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Ask general things about the person
During a first date, no one wants to reveal too much about themselves because they don’t know where the date is going to head. Furthermore, one can and will eventually find out things gradually and that is in fact the best way to know a person.
Ask your date about general things the first time like their childhood, parents, pets, dreams etc. Things that aren’t very personal yet general enough for you to be able to gauge a little about the person’s character and personality.
Talk about yourself, but not too much
During a first date, just like you want to know the other person, the other person wants to know you better too. So give your date a chance to talk. Don’t be the one who keeps narrating their life’s story. Keep your information general, brief, yet interesting enough to fuel further questions from the date.
Find common interests
The first date is the best time to find common interests and likes. So ask questions based on hobbies, sports, actors, movies, music etc. See how much you have in common so that it can pave the way for further conversations that come naturally based on the interests.
Talk a little about your profession and professional aspirations
One can tell a lot about a person by their profession. For instance, writers are known to be creative and deep. Actors are known to be flamboyant etc. So start talking about your profession, the reason you choose a profession of the sort and why you’d spend your life committed to it. Likewise, get your date to talk about theirs too so you can understand each other more.
Indulge in a little humor
Add some humor to the first date conversation so that you can keep things light and reduce the stress of the “first date”. Smile often, pass witty comments when your date says something. This will help set the right tone for the first date.
Include random topics to the talk
You don’t always have to talk about the specifics. Be random. Because that ups the interest quotient of the conversation. Talk about horoscope. The stars. Palmistry. Anything that can make for a few good sentences of light banter.
Ask about special talents
Everyone has hidden talents, believe it or not. The difference is that not everyone chooses a profession that supports their talents. But it’s always good to know of people’s talents so during your first date, talk about yours and ask your date if they have any specific ones to tell of.
Everyone loves a Sunday and everyone loves holidays even more. Talk about what your date usually ends up doing on holidays to know more about how they plan their life. One can tell a lot about a person based on their Sunday plans and holiday plans. Do they just go to new places, exotic beaches or cook new recipes…find out. It’s a great conversation starter.
Their ideal partner
It’s never a bad idea to talk about what you think is the “right” partner. Everyone has their picture of perfection locked inside their head. Talk about your ideal mate and get your date to talk about theirs too. It will be a great way to make comparisons and joke about it later considering all goes uphill post the first date.
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