It is a well known fact that long distant relationships are difficult to manage and more often than not, it comes to an end. The end can be a mutual decision or a one sided effort but how can you understand when your long distance relationship is about to end? Here are some ways to know if your long distance relationship is fading away:
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People stop making efforts to communicate
If you are used to talking to your partner for hours and it has gradually reduced in duration, there is nothing to worry about. But, if you reduce speaking to your partner or if your partner reduces talking to you because of laziness that is when you can understand that things are changing in your relationship. Everyone has to make efforts to communicate in a relationship and the efforts have to be doubled when it comes to a long distance relationship. If you don’t feel like making the effort to communicate anymore, your relationship might be hitting troubled waters.
Speaking to your girlfriend/boyfriend takes a backseat
When the relationship gradually fades away into in-existence, one of the warning signs will be a decrease in the importance your partner used to give to you. If you are willing to spend your free time listening to music, going out with friends and doing everything but speaking to your partner, its time for you to get a reality check.
Noticeable decrease in using endearing terms
When people start growing apart, there is a noticeable decrease in endearing terms when they speak to each other. When the relationship is healthy, they enjoy giving each other nicknames but when people move away from each other on an emotional level, they unconsciously stop using any terms of endearment because it stops feeling right.
You are reluctant to meet the other
Nothing seems to make any difference when love fades away. A sign for this fading love would be reluctance in meeting your partner because if you meet him, you will have to make small talk with him, spend time with him and maybe get intimate with him. Since you are trying to avoid situations where things might get awkward for you, meeting him (which was the previously the best part of your day/weekend) seems like a struggle.
You feel unimportant around him/her
This person, who used to make you feel that the world belongs to you, has suddenly stopped making you feel important, let alone special. This happens primarily because he stops mattering to you and in return, you feel that you don’t matter to him. You start overlooking the things that used to make you feel special when you started dating him. So, the feeling of unimportance is not completely his fault.
He keeps overlooking problems in your relationship
If you feel that your long distance relationship is fading away because he has stopped bothering with some serious problems in your relationship or stops supporting you emotionally, you may be right since he might have given up on the relationship. Men tend to distance themselves from their partner when they don’t feel the need to be in a relationship with them. Since the physical distance exists already, the only thing they need to take care of is the emotion which is dealt with in the aforementioned manner.
He stops compromising your needs for his
When two people who were madly in love with each other start putting their needs before their partners rather than the other way round, it can be considered as a sign of a fading relationship where their individual progress is the most important thing.
You have difficulty in trusting him/her
Since you have a different sort of a connection when you truly love someone, it is improper to doubt that person. When your trust on your partner starts to fade away, it signals the gradual fading away of your relationship because somewhere on a subconscious level, you have accepted the fate of this relationship.
You are ignored if he/she is out with friends and family
If your partner has stopped take your calls when she is out with friends and family and it has become a regular occurrence, it means that she doesn’t have the urge to speak to you. This might be because you have gradually lost your importance in her life and both of you are gradually parting ways.
If your partner starts spending time with someone of the opposite sex
If she suddenly finds some other guy interesting and prefers to hang around in the company of others rather than you, then it’s safe to assume that she is gradually substituting you with someone else.
Romantic gestures come to a halt
When the small little things she did for you stop and dinner dates are filled with an awkward silence, you should realize that things are about to end between the two of you.
A change in their behavior
If there are random changes in her behavior, if the things that she used to adore about you suddenly become annoying and irritating to her and if she starts picking at every small thing you do, talk to her about everything that is going on because for all you know, your relationship is fading away.